Greetings,
As I have recently shared, I
am a part of a ministry called the Healing Room. In this ministry we come
across many that have un-forgiveness as result of an offense. One women
in particular had such a high level of un-forgiveness that she had huge
difficulty getting the words out as we led her to forgive and say the words “I
forgive Sally.” She had been severely hurt by this women, but she chose
to forgive.
I would like to resend this
piece I put together a couple of years ago that will give a better
understanding of what leads to un-forgiveness and what the end result can
be. We all have had to deal with un-forgiveness in the past and we will
have to deal with it now and in the future. Please take time to read.
Offenses Leads Us To Bitterness
Definition
of OFFENSE: 1. An act of stumbling, a cause or occasion of sin, stumbling
block. 2. Something that outrages the moral or physical senses. 3. The act of
attacking, assault. 4 The act of displeasing or insulting, the state of being
insulted or morally outraged, takes offense at the slightest criticism. 5
breach of a moral or social code, sin, and misdeed
Matthew
18:7 Woe to the world because of offenses! For offenses must come, but woe to
that man by whom the offense comes! (New Century Version - Matthew 18:7 How
terrible for the people of the world because of the things that cause them to
sin. Such things will happen, but how terrible for the one who causes them to
happen!)
As I observe
people, I have realized how so many are hurt due to offenses. You can see
the different stages of hurt that has manifested on their faces or in their
demeanor. The offenses almost always results in rejection. We take
offense because we believe what man says or does to us despite the fact that
God is very clear on who we should trust. Psalm 7:1 O LORD my God, in You I
put my trust; Save me from all those who persecute me; And deliver me.
Psalm 56:11 In God I have put my trust; I will not be afraid. What can man do
to me? Man cannot do anything to you unless you open the door for him
to do so. Man offends by criticism, judging, accusations (charges against
you) blame, slander, backbiting, gossip, etc.
How do we open
the door to torment and destruction when we are offended or when we
offend? Before we go any further, I want to give you a list that is a
result of offenses and I want to ask you to meditate on these and tell me which
one is the strongman. This strongman will allow the rest to manifest and
is the general over the rest.
Bitterness….Unforgiveness….Resentment....Retaliation….Anger/Wrath….Hatred….Volience….Murder….
If you picked
Murder, you are incorrect. Murder is the end result. We have to
identify the one in control once we opened the door due to the offense.
Bitterness is the strongman. Bitterness initiates the process that can
result in murder or will leave you in bondage somewhere in between Bitterness
and Murder.
Bitterness - Hebrews
12:15 Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any
root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become
defiled. Bitterness corrodes like acid, eating away at our
soul. It poisons the mind first and then the body. It is often
marked by cynicism and animosity toward others. Bitterness is a strong
man kept in place by several underlings. Each underling is given entry
into our lives by the one preceding it. The severity of the evilness of
each underlings gets progressively worse. Bitterness is a strongman and
he seeks a place to live. You are the palace and he wants to be in your
house and once you let him in, he will bring others to torment you. He is
the general and he has an army that he will try bring in and destroy you.
Un-forgiveness - Something
has been done to you and there is a spirit assigned to you. What is the
first thing that comes to you when someone wrongs you?
Un-forgiveness. Bitterness is the strongman and the first armor he trusts
in is Un-forgiveness. Un-forgiveness is now part of your life and your
will not have forgiveness if you give a place and habitation for
Un-forgiveness.
What
Bitterness is banking on is you remembering a record of wrongs. He is
banking on the spirit of Un-forgiveness reminding you of Bitterness someone has
against you. The task of Un-forgiveness is to remind you, rehash it,
bring it up, project it, and torment you with it. Un-forgiveness will
replay the words, the voices, the sights, and the sounds. Un-forgiveness
will flash at you everything others have ever said over and over again to
reinforce itself so the strongman of Bitterness can stay.
Resentment – The strongman
now sends out another spirit to reinforce Un-forgiveness. Resentment
stands on the foundation of Un-forgiveness. The record of wrongs is now
fermenting and Resentment fuels the fermentation of Un-forgiveness.
Resentment
defiles you by saying “You know what? I really don’t like you. I resent
you. I’m never going to forgive you.” Bitterness is trusting the spirit
of Un-forgiveness to stay with you and add fuel to the fire. He is trusting
that Resentment will get a foothold for more torment and control.
Retaliation – “I’m going to get even.
You’re going to pay. I remember what you did to me and you better watch
your back.” The spirit of Retaliation is much more dangerous than
Un-forgiveness and Resentment. After Resentment has started to simmer, we
find ways to get back at the person who caused it. We do this in many
ways and one of the most common is slandering of the person. You will
express your criticism to anyone who will listen. You want to be heard
and you want someone to agree with you and when they don’t, you go to the next
person.
Anger and Wrath – After
Retaliation gets a foot hold, anger starts to set in. Un-forgiveness,
Resentment and Retaliation have been building and now a strong feeling of anger
comes along. Un-forgiveness and Resentment can be hidden skillfully by someone
who is deceptive. Retaliation can be hidden, but Anger starts to show
physically. Family, friends, coworkers, see this manifestation of anger
in your face and demeanor. It is a very uncomfortable for people to
coexist with a person with anger and wrath.
Anger and
Wrath never occur unless these three, Un-forgiveness, Resentment and
Retaliation have been festering for some time. You get angry for a
reason. The reason is because of the breach, because of the hurt, because
of the victimization, and they that their anger is justified.
Retaliation
may seem worse than Anger, but this is the fermenting stage. Retaliation
sets the stage to eliminate, but you will not eliminate anyone unless you have
Anger and Wrath working within the spiritual dynamics of this principality and
the spirits that create and answer to it.
We are dealing
with Anger coming out of a relationship. This is the Anger and Wrath tied
to Bitterness. This is a progression of spiritual dynamics producing the
elimination of a person in a relationship. It is the root behind all
people who murdered someone and are in prison. It is the root behind all
family splits, behind all division, and behind all break up of human
relationships.
Hatred – After Anger
and Wrath has gained their foothold, Hatred comes. Hatred not only has
the root of Bitterness, but is being fueled by all the previous. Now
begins the stage of elimination.
Hatred says
this: “I exist on the planet and you do too, and one of us has to go and it
will not be me. I hate you, I can’t stand you. I resent you, I am
going to get even because you don’t belong on this planet.” Hatred
involves the elimination of the other person. Retaliation was the
fermenting stage of this. Anger started to vocalize it and now Hatred
comes to help execute it.
Bitter ness is
banking on the fact when you are ready to forgive, old Un-forgiveness will pull
up a flash card of memories reminding you of what they did to you.
Violence – You can see
Violence every day in families and the news is a constant reminder how bad it
is getting. This is the progression of breakup of human relationships out
of Bitterness. Bitterness is behind all domestic Violence and all
juvenile Violence.
Violence is
what puts people in jail and this is why we have a police force. Violence
is Anger and Hatred in motion because it is not just emotional and spiritual
anymore, it has now become physical.
At this level,
people will hate you so much; they will want to punch your lights out
physically or verbally. Bitterness is banking on the fact that this
progression in your life is going to keep him in place and these spirits are
able to generate their nature in you and also in others to fuel this thing back
and forth.
Murder – The seventh and
final spirit that competes the full plan of the devil for destruction
originating from the strongman of Bitterness (Hebrews 12:15) is the
spirit of Murder.
This can
actually be physical murder, or murder with the tongue, which is character
assassination. When hatred, violence and murder are in someone’s life,
they feel they are justified and everybody else is going to pay the
price. Have you been a victim of this? Did you feel defiled?
Have you victimized someone else on this basis?
Beware – If any one of
these seven spirits answering to bitterness exists, all of the preceding
spirits will be there. If left unchecked, all the rest will surely
come. For example, if you see Hatred in a person, Un-forgiveness,
Resentment, Retaliation and Anger always precedes Hatred. Each of the
seven is progressively worse than the one just preceding it. You are a
target of the strongman of Bitterness and you don’t want him to set up his
throne within your life.
Resolution – In order to
defeat the strongman of Bitterness, you need to understand how his armor
works. You have to understand the Bitterness armor in your life so that
so that Bitterness can be dealt with and you can be set free. If you have
been offended by someone or you have offended someone, the breach needs to be
repaired with that person if at all possible. If it is not possible, you
can still be free by the power of God through Jesus Christ whether there is any
resolution with that person who created the breach or not.
We are going
to get offended as we go through life. The key is don’t hold the
offense captive (….bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of
Christ 2 Corinthians 10:5). When someone says or does something that
makes you feel a “ping of hurt,” recognize that “ping of hurt” as an
offense. This is especially important for people who have a long history
of rejection in their lives. They tend to take anything that someone says
as rejection and therefore, is an offense to them. Immediately
renounce the words or actions that caused the “ping of hurt” in the Name of
Jesus. Below is the prayer and authority that we use when an offense
comes.
Forgive me
Father for taking offence. I renounce this offense. I repent for
believing in this offense and in the name of Jesus Christ I cast out this
offense (Mark 16:17). I choose to believe what You say about me and not
the offender.
Guard you
heart against offenses because in doing so, you protect yourself against the
downward spiral of torment that Bitterness brings to you and all people that
are around you. Don’t claim the words or actions of the offense, but instead
claim what God has to say about you. I praise you because you made me
in an amazing and wonderful way. What you have done is wonderful. I know this
very well. Psalm 139:14.
Forgive those
who offend you and understand that it is the sin working in them.
If man
offends me, I choose to forgive him. Yes, if you forgive others for
their sins, your Father in heaven will also forgive you for your sins Matthew
6:14.
Thank you
Henry Wright at Be In Health Ministries for your insights to Bitterness.
Blessings,
Tony Sanchez